1:1 therapy · 6 to 8 sessions · Online via Zoom
A clear, safe path to your decision
I have no agenda for your relationship. I won't steer you towards staying or leaving. My job is to help you hear your own answer, then walk into it steadily.
Not yet decided
When you keep going back and forth
- Separate fear, guilt and obligation from what you want
- Hear the parts of you that want to stay and the parts that want to go
- Look honestly at what each path would cost and give
Staying, differently
When you choose to stay, but not as before
- Find and use your voice inside the relationship
- Set boundaries and have the conversations you've avoided
- Build a life within the relationship that includes you
Leaving, gently
When you've decided to go, or it's been decided
- Prepare to tell your partner, the children and the wider family
- Stay steady through grief, conflict and the practical upheaval
- Rediscover who you are in your next season
How we'll work: three phases, 6 to 8 sessions
01
See clearly
Your story, your safety, and an honest map of the relationship across the years: the good times, the turning points, when the distance began.
02
Weigh honestly
Your values, the woman you want to be at 65 and 75, and the real fears about money, family and the future, sorted into facts and unknowns.
03
Decide and act
Choose your path, stay and recommit, leave with a plan, or not yet, on purpose, and leave with a written plan for your next 90 days.
Your questions
What happens in a session?
We meet on Zoom, so you can join from somewhere private. Sometimes we talk it through, sometimes we slow down and notice what your body is telling you, and sometimes we practise the conversation you've been dreading.
Does my partner need to know?
No. These sessions are for you, and what you share is confidential, within the usual legal and safety limits (see my privacy policy). Many women book with a private email address.
How many sessions will I need?
Most women reach a clear decision in 6 to 8 sessions. Some move faster, and we'll always go at your pace. If you'd like support after you've decided, whether you're staying or leaving, we can keep working together. You're always free to stop.
Is this right for me?
My work is with you individually, not couples counselling. It isn't a crisis service, and it doesn't include diagnosis or Medicare-rebated care; your GP is the right first stop for those. If you're not sure, the free call is the place to find out.